The good person myth

Today, I share about the “good person” myth & how if you resonate to being a good person (or good girl) you will always have a villain in your story and how to transcend this.

To be able to fully step into our authentic power & path, it’s helpful to healing the need to be seen as a “good person”/“good girl”.

A lot of us were taught that anger & negative (or too much) emotions were bad, that our dreams & goals were bad. We then take persecuting/judging ourselves from our caregivers using guilt or shame to control our own behavior & preferences.

This engages the drama triangle (persecutor, victim, hero). Instead of healing the traumatic programming of being told we were conditionally accepted & loved, we judge ourselves & others against this impossible standard. No person is all good or all bad. We are all comprised of good/bad & dark/light. We incarnated to experience this contrast.

Additionally, when you identify as a “good person” you will project your unhealed shadow self on others. You will scapegoat your unhealed parts of yourself onto others. You will continue to have drama in your life with “bad people” or “villains”. Drama is highly addictive because it helps you escape from feeling the trapped trauma in your body.

We draw into our lives people who reflect back to us the shadow parts of ourselves that are up to be healed.

We are shifting from this 3D duality. The veil is lifting so we can sense people’s intentions behind their actions. Seemingly “good” behavior may have not so pure intentions & we can sense that. Even if we act “good” but underneath feel negative emotions like resentment or judgment/superiority, we are creating karma around being inauthentic & our actions have underlying negative emotions.

It’s ok to feel anger, it indicates something isn’t work for you. On the flip side, as you set boundaries & do your own self-care, you may become a villain in someone’s narrative if they engage in the drama triangle & have attachments to how you should be. Remember you are responsible for your own healing and they are responsible for their own. We honor and appreciate all the souls and lessons that have helped us. ❤️